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che
04-24-07, 08:42 PM
On a day of January 2005, a relative, her aunt, of Mrs died after a fall due to heart failure.
Some of you remember it, perhaps. If not, well, nevermind.
She left alone in the house, one of her sisters.

From this day, we haven't stop to run from town to town, for several reasons.
But the most important was that the remaining aunt of Mrs was...94 y/old !
Not driving of course, & only a few & slow walk, with someone beside, and almost no help at all !
To leave her alone was unthinkable, so we spent most of our time to take care of her.
Going as much as we could to see her, from our town to hers, buying things that she needed,
you know....toilet, food, medics, clothes and all that was possible to do......
Phoning her 3 times, or more, a day, & to doctors, neighboors.... when we couldn't move.
And things slowed down a bit.

Until the day she had a health problem, & went to the hospital, then all started again,
with the difference that we spent days in these foocked places.
Some weeks later she was moved in a convalescent home where she stood for some times.
Finally, she got a room in the retirement home, where Mrs had already found one for her mother.....
on the other side of the road, almost in front of home !
It was June 2006.

We almost had a "normal" life since.
Everything seemed fine, until 2 months ago, when she started to say that it was time for her to go,
that she had nothing to do or to wait anymore. Creepy !
As she didn't feel good, Mrs brought her to hospital for some exams about 15 days ago.
She turned back & then stopped eating, drinking, talking....
And morphine did its best.

She passed away on Saturday, April 21, 2007.
Funerals took place today Tuesday, April 24,2007.
Some people came, children of the family for whom she worked when she was young, some of my relative came as well.
After that everybody went away, & later we found ourselves alone, just Mrs & I, in the crematorium where she was taken along !
I looked at my wife & said ironically "Well, she didn't want "tralalas", she hasn't got any" !!
She was going to turn 96 on May,7.

We do not regret what we did, & don't complain about, even if sometimes it's been .....!
But, wtf, if life is beautiful, sometimes it skcus, it really skcus & you wonder why you do all that you do !!

Sorry to be boring & confused !
Just needed to say it !

th3n00b
04-24-07, 08:47 PM
Sorry for your loss man. I sucks when they go, I know. I hope you feel better soon.

uglytruckling
04-24-07, 08:48 PM
I'm sorry for your loss, and your family will be in my prayers.

moonman
04-24-07, 08:50 PM
Sorry for yours and the Mrs. loss. Let us know if there is anything you need.

majorhan
04-24-07, 11:15 PM
el che bless you!

Pooka
04-24-07, 11:19 PM
My Sincerest Condolences, My Good Friend...

jod
04-24-07, 11:22 PM
This year I have actually watched my sister die and countless friends, seems I'm in a loop

All I can suggest is that you celebrate the life and remember the good times, that is all they would have wanted

Atomicoxygas
04-25-07, 12:27 AM
sorry about your loss dude ....... we are with you here.

CJ
04-25-07, 12:34 AM
Sorry to hear man, hope she went out peacefully as much as she could.

JahSun
04-25-07, 12:52 AM
Just like the others, sorry to hear about your loss man. Hope you're handling it well.

mAVERICK1
04-25-07, 09:35 AM
we spent most of our time to take care of her..... sometimes ... you wonder why you do all that you do !!

Rest assured Che you made your aunt as comfortable and acknowledged as possible in her final months.

You asked the question...you wonder why you do all that you do? IMHO It's part of who you are. Actions like these show how much you value family.

Despite being family I'm sure your aunt would not have taken your support for granted but will no doubt, have been eternally grateful for the kinship you offered. You've done good by your family dude. Respect!

tamsnod27
04-25-07, 02:50 PM
Sorry for your loss, feel free to vent here

Jantheman
04-25-07, 09:24 PM
Sorry for your loss. Do your grief work and be at peace. She has went to a better place.

Mojo
04-25-07, 10:05 PM
dude, sorry for ur loss man

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