Need some advice......

Ok so here's the deal. My ex-gf broke up with me last September for the second time. However, we've been chatting online for the past couple of months. Nothing serious, just talking. So here's her situation.
She was in a predicament where she was supposedly just hanging out with a guy friend of hers whose she's known for quite a few years. For a couple months, the two of them were going out once a week for coffee and just talking and hanging out. Then all of a sudden, this guys girlfriend of like 4 years accuses him of cheating on her with my ex. It caused one big mess. So then all their other friends, being the gossipers they are, start talking all this shit about the whole situation. She's been hanging out with them for the past few months on their Tuesday night get togethers, but ever since this bullshit drama, they've been treating my ex like shit, and ignoring her at their get togethers, and probably talking a lot of crazy shit behind her back.
So my ex asks me last week if we can get together for lunch on Sunday, which was yesterday. I agree, we meet at Applebees, and she ends up asking me if I could go with her to a wedding that's coming up next month. She says that if I don't want to go, it's ok, but she would just like to go with someone that she knows and trusts. (Those were her words.) And that she wants to go as us just being friends.
Now I'm hesitant about the whole situation, and don't know if I should go to the wedding with her or not. She really hurt me when she broke up with me for the second time, especially cuz I was going through rough times and it seemed like nothing was going right for me. It feels to me that she just wants to use me for the wedding cuz her supposed friends are just all backstabber's and they all like to talk shit about each other. A bunch of drama queens basically. I don't know what to do.Plus I'm worried that I'll be uncomfortable like hell at the wedding cuz knowing her, I'm probably the one who became the latest total asshole/loser in her life of her telling that to her friends when we broke up.
Uuugghhhh. What should I do guys? Should I go to the wedding with her or not? After 7 months of not seeing her or any of her friends, and now this, I may get some weird looks coming my way. What should I do???


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I would say fuck that shit. Don't be the fallback

Well, I suppose you could go to the wedding A) Just for fun, B) If you think that maybe she really wants you there and you're doing her a favor {Brownie Points}, C) If you know the people being married and want to show up for them, or D) If you perhaps liked one of her friends that is going to be there / possibly hook up with some other wedding goer {remember: you're going as a friend, so when nookie is involved, you can hook-up with whoever you choose} :P

is that the same one both of you had tats done?

how old are you anyways? dont answer that.... basically what i am trying to say is what pvtpile just mentioned above.

i bet after the wedding ... you aint going to get anything. so just say no.

For the wedding ... were you invited in the first place or you planning to just show up with your ex?

learn to say no to ex's ;)

Yeah, she's the same girl that both of us got inked together.

The wedding is actually for a couple of lesbian friends of hers whom of which we all hung out together a bunch of times. I got along really well with them.(after all, they're lesbians.) I don't generally know If I'm actually invited, but I'm gonna make that a poin to ask my ex, if she's talked about it with them.

Oh yeah, the plan is for everyone to get a hotel room that night since everyone's gonna end up getting so smashed and it's like an hour from where they all live.

I'd say don't go. I'm saying this so you don't end up falling for her again. You've been together twice and it didn't work either time, don't set yourself up for another fall. If it were me, I wouldn't hit it with a ten foot pole. Run while you can.

All women are psycho, except for the present gals online. It reads like you have already accepted her as a friend going to applebees, and talking to her every so often.
Do what makes you happy, but don't be the fall back guy. It doesn't sound like she asked anyone else to go.
I agree with MostlyHarmless.
Don't drink, or smoke anything. Keep your wits about you. You can leave whenever you want.
All the gossip is just that: gossip.
Most important: do you have a current girlfriend, or someone lined up?
Don't ask her if the lesbo's mind. Ask her if she has had a 3 some with them? j/k

better to light urself on fire and run thru a Meth lab than to go to a wedding with an ex.

better to light urself on fire and run thru a Meth lab than to go to a wedding with an ex.

This one, he speaketh the truth.

NOOOOOOOOOO..............she wants to use you as an emotional tampon.....forget her, move on.....there is someone twice as good as her around the corner! However you can't see the forest for the trees

I have to say I feel the opposite to what most of the other guys are saying.

Sounds like she tried to move on and was trampled by a bunch of wankers who think they are the cast of Friends.

Now as to whether you should go or not that is a differnet bucket of crabs but I think the poor girl has just had a "life" lesson and needs someone she knows and trusts. The fact that you guys still talk (even online) means she means at least something to you and personally I would never turn my back on someone I cared about, shit even some of the guys and gals on here.

If you think you can stay as just friends and not have yer head turned after a few beers then I would say go. But if you think yer just gonna run yerself through the coals again then leave it and keep the distance that you have at the moment and indeed seem hapy with.

^The above is the opinion of a scotsman and should be taken as such. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one.

I say don't go. It's time to start being a little gun shy around this woman. She's burnt you twice already. No sense going for a third time.

If you know the couple getting married and like them, go to the wedding to support them, but be damned careful around the ex.

Fook it man, do what your gut tells you. Usually your first instinct is the best. I usually tell my ex's to go get fucked so I have never had a situation like this. I never hear from my ex's because I am an asshole...

I dunno, if there are going to be single STRAIT women there and there is free beer, food and CAKE, I would go, but hey, I hooked up with the frickin' bride at one particular wedding I recall, so I never have a problem going to a wedding, unless it is a dry wedding, then fook it!8)

we All Like A Bit Of Cake

dont do it, but wait, do it but she has to give u free sex, if not, dont do it..

free sex would definately be good.. but be careful not to get sucked into any more of her drama.

Sex is never free. You do not pay a whore for sex, you pay her to leave...

no such thing as free sex, She'll make you pay in the end

I've read every single comment from you guys here and I gotta say, a lot of em made me laugh my ass off. I appreciate it guys. Honestly. One thing I'm gonna discuss with her tonight is if she actually talked about it with the ones getting married. (The lesbians.) I'd truly hate to end up going with her and find out that no one actually said it's ok for me to go, even though I'm sure they would say ok since I got along so well with them. But I agree with you guys. Perhaps I have just turned into her fallback guy. Even though she tells me about all the things she does on the weekend and the places she goes and people she meets, it really does make me wonder why she would want me of all people to go with her..... ugghhh. I think I gotta really talk to her again to get some questions answered before I make a decision ......

Dude, don't fall her shit for a third time. Women ALWAYS have an ulterior motive!! I should know, I am one!! :bluntsmile: Its all good that you are friendly and shit...but just remember what she put you through and then ask yourself if you wanna travel down that road again.

FINALLY!!!!!!! A womans opinion!!!!! Thanks.

dicks don't get wet at lesbian weddings.

your ex is probably swinging towards the other side of the river, and probably not o your vine. keywords to look for in any conversation are SAFE TRUST NICE. this should tell you your ex is not interested in your manhood or any other man's hood. she only wants to use you. whether to make some carpetmuncher green or to prove to them in her feeble way, that she can do what she likes. who really knows how dykes think? she just wants to use you.

GO BUY HER A BIG DILDO AND TELL HER NOT TO CALL AGAIN
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