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The dying man's wish
Last updated at 22:00pm on 26th January 2007
http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/01_wk4/nwallisBBC260107_228x356.jpgTerminally ill Nick Wallis
Stricken with an illness that is likely to kill him before he reaches the age of 30, Nick Wallis had a special request to put to the nuns and nurses looking after him at hospice.
He asked them to help him find a prostitute and – after some hesitation – they did.
Mr Wallis, 22, persuaded them he should be allowed to have a sexual experience before he died. Knowing that he was now unlikley to have one in a loving relationship, he had decided his only alternative was to pay.
The case of Mr Wallis, who has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, posed a major moral dilemma for Sister Frances Dominica, the founder of Douglas House hospice in Oxford, and the establishment’s ethics committee.
After seeking advice to ensure they were not acting illegally, the decision was taken to support Mr Wallis, with nurse Chris Bloor helping him to find a suitable woman on disability sites on the Internet.
Sister Frances said: "We have known Nick for many years. He had been unable to form a relationship with a girl at university.
"He first shared with one of our doctors and then one of our nurses, his feelings of wanting to experience, if nothing else, a sexual relationship before he died – something so many people take for granted.
"It has to be said that the charity debated this request at length. It’s the first time we have ever been asked such a question."
The story of Mr Wallis’s request will be featured next week in an episode of Children of Helen House, a BBC2 eight-part series about a hospice for children and Douglas House, the neighbouring facility for young adults.
Sister Frances added: "Nick decided that the only way forward was to pay for a sexual experience, with or without our support, and we came to the conclusion that it was our duty of care to support him.
"When Nick did make contact with the young woman, he met her at home, but with the Douglas House nurse and another adult in a different room in case he needed them."
Mr Wallis’s mother admitted that she struggled with her son’s wish. "It is not what I would wish for anyone, least of all Nick."
Mr Wallis, who lives in Northamptonshire, said he had always hoped that he would experience sex as part of a close relationship.
"I began to accept that this might not happen for me,’ he added.
He said he met the prostitute after his final degree exams last May. "Her train was late, which did not help my nerves.
"She turned out to be intelligent and pleasant woman, attractive, in her late 20s. I guess that she was used to relating to nervous people as she put me at ease. The two hours passed quickly and it was, you may say, satisfactory.
"I am pleased I had the tenacity and commitment to see it through. The experience, while not emotionally fulfilling, gave me confidence and a sense that I was not missing out.
"I do not think I will necessarily choose to repeat it, although I have not ruled it out."
Helen House and Douglas House provide respite for exhausted parents of the terminally ill and end of life care for children and young adults.
Children of Helen House is shown on BBC2 on Tuesdays at 10pm.
source (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=431776&in_page_id=1770)
The dying man's wish
Last updated at 22:00pm on 26th January 2007
http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/01_wk4/nwallisBBC260107_228x356.jpgTerminally ill Nick Wallis
Stricken with an illness that is likely to kill him before he reaches the age of 30, Nick Wallis had a special request to put to the nuns and nurses looking after him at hospice.
He asked them to help him find a prostitute and – after some hesitation – they did.
Mr Wallis, 22, persuaded them he should be allowed to have a sexual experience before he died. Knowing that he was now unlikley to have one in a loving relationship, he had decided his only alternative was to pay.
The case of Mr Wallis, who has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, posed a major moral dilemma for Sister Frances Dominica, the founder of Douglas House hospice in Oxford, and the establishment’s ethics committee.
After seeking advice to ensure they were not acting illegally, the decision was taken to support Mr Wallis, with nurse Chris Bloor helping him to find a suitable woman on disability sites on the Internet.
Sister Frances said: "We have known Nick for many years. He had been unable to form a relationship with a girl at university.
"He first shared with one of our doctors and then one of our nurses, his feelings of wanting to experience, if nothing else, a sexual relationship before he died – something so many people take for granted.
"It has to be said that the charity debated this request at length. It’s the first time we have ever been asked such a question."
The story of Mr Wallis’s request will be featured next week in an episode of Children of Helen House, a BBC2 eight-part series about a hospice for children and Douglas House, the neighbouring facility for young adults.
Sister Frances added: "Nick decided that the only way forward was to pay for a sexual experience, with or without our support, and we came to the conclusion that it was our duty of care to support him.
"When Nick did make contact with the young woman, he met her at home, but with the Douglas House nurse and another adult in a different room in case he needed them."
Mr Wallis’s mother admitted that she struggled with her son’s wish. "It is not what I would wish for anyone, least of all Nick."
Mr Wallis, who lives in Northamptonshire, said he had always hoped that he would experience sex as part of a close relationship.
"I began to accept that this might not happen for me,’ he added.
He said he met the prostitute after his final degree exams last May. "Her train was late, which did not help my nerves.
"She turned out to be intelligent and pleasant woman, attractive, in her late 20s. I guess that she was used to relating to nervous people as she put me at ease. The two hours passed quickly and it was, you may say, satisfactory.
"I am pleased I had the tenacity and commitment to see it through. The experience, while not emotionally fulfilling, gave me confidence and a sense that I was not missing out.
"I do not think I will necessarily choose to repeat it, although I have not ruled it out."
Helen House and Douglas House provide respite for exhausted parents of the terminally ill and end of life care for children and young adults.
Children of Helen House is shown on BBC2 on Tuesdays at 10pm.
source (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=431776&in_page_id=1770)