some help spying on my kids friends

Ok I haven't posted anything here yet. I know I shouldn't be making a request since I haven't contributed.

I could lie and say that I've been trying to figure my way around this place, but that is only true to a point.

Truth is I've been swamped. I haven't had time to find any thing (tits) to contribute, or to learn my way around here. I will try and do better.

But I have a need. My wife is not too internet savy. she does her thing and that's it. Tonight at a pta meeting she discovered myspace. Apparently many of my middle school son's friends have accounts. No big deal, even though i hadn't really considered it. ( my son is not computer savy at all).

Then she tells me about an 8th grader that is going by the blog name team whore stating she's bangin the football team. Not to mention porn pics posted on profiles.

My wife and I want to try and find these myspace pages. Some will have their profiles listed as private and these are the ones I really want to see.

I tried the myspace search and it sucks. I tried google and had limited success. is there a way to make google search in a specific domain?

Is there a way to gain access to these private profiles?

Thanks in advance for your help

and I will start posting stuffs.

Probable going to need her account name or else it wont happen. My advice is to stay out of it, why do you need to involve yourselves? Kids today are pretty wild and net savvy, being 8th graders im willing to go out on a limb and suggest its more lip service than truth.... again, just leave it alone.

You could try talking to your kids about it and trying to teach them right from wrong...I mean, it obviously didn't work with any of us here, but you should try just the same ;)

Set up an account and then you can access anything. Go to your kids pages and see who their friends are and look at their pages, etc. etc. Set up a software package that will log all of the sites your computer visits. There are alot of options.

But like the others before me mentioned, do you really want to knowwhat your kids are doing? I did all the wrong things, and my parents never had any idea. I never got in any trouble and I think I turned out all right. Okay, the last part my not be true but it is not my parents fault.

thanks for the advice. I have reciently moved back to the community where i grew up. It's a small town with nothing to do but drink and fuck. We have always had high teen pregnacy rates, and since i've moved back i've been hearing about huge drug problems as well. I have been dismissing it as alarmist parents, but the more i hear from more sources the more i wonder.

I feel like i need to find out what the hell is going on in this school and I think this myspace shit would be a good start. I don't think my son is involved, but i need to know what he is facing, and he is too naive to be able to tell me.

this software is highly reccomended and records EVERYTHING anyone does on the comp. Including login/pass for Myspace, so you could get on their site and see their friends and read their messages recvd and sent etc...

http://www.spectorsoft.com/products/SpectorPro_Windows/index.html

thanks for the advice. I have reciently moved back to the community where i grew up. It's a small town with nothing to do but drink and fuck. We have always had high teen pregnacy rates, and since i've moved back i've been hearing about huge drug problems as well. I have been dismissing it as alarmist parents, but the more i hear from more sources the more i wonder.

I feel like i need to find out what the hell is going on in this school and I think this myspace shit would be a good start. I don't think my son is involved, but i need to know what he is facing, and he is too naive to be able to tell me.

i think the best way to start would be to sit them down and in the most rational, best friend kind of way, try to explain to them your point of view. depending on how old they are, and if they are anything like you, they might just understand. i would go so far as to offer them help with things like trips to the mall, movies, ect. in response to seeing them doing little things around the house or good grades. hopefully this will establish a connection between responsibility and getting your reward at the end of the day. and even more, no one NEEDS myspace (you could just block it with a few clicks of the mouse) so that might be a route worth taking.

look, i cant tell you how to raise kids when i've none of my own, but i can tell you what i think might have worked on me. if all else fails, scare the crap outta them with teen pregnancy videos and bring them to a morgue and show them a guy who was in an accident / excessive drinker/ drug addict. but thats usually a last case scenario....

while i dont suggest using these ideas, i do suggest coming up with some of your own based on what i've provided....

move !! go to better town and get a better job there !!




hows that for an idea !

high teenage pregnancy rate and drugs :drool:
which town be this :fly:

Best way is to help your kid set up an account. If you do the inital part first you will know the pass word and screen names and the email when there changed will come to your inbox. Then once he is established you can poke around from friend to friend. If you hit one that is private have him added as a friend.

Once they get going your kid will most likely only need to be added to one site. From there you can find thier friends and their friends and their friends.

The Risky option would be to set up your own account create something cool trendy and eye catchy then ask to be added to whom ever site you want to see that is marked private and see if they will add you. This may involve trickery and pretending to be some one your not on kids web pages. IF you get caught or reported it could get ugly to explain.

WARNING:
Especially in a small town connected enviroment the risk of seeing something you wish you hadnt seen or learning something that will comeback to haunt you will me much greater than looking at some fellow noobters post :D

My experience is that most of what you will learn from your kids friends will be just how cool and well behaved your kid is compared to his friends. But from time to time you may learn somethings that you kid was a little reluctant to tell you or only told you 1/2 the story. By knowing these facts with out them knowing you learned them give you an edge in any life lessons you want to pass on.

Well, I'm a young kid as it is myself (almost an adult in Canada), so I'll try to give you my perspective. First of all, I hate it when my parents say something behind my back about me or spy on me, or what not. It makes me feel like they don't trust me. I'm responsible enough to know what is right and wrong, and I feel like I should have a choice to make a right or wrong decision. If there is one thing I'd want, it would be for my parents to ask me if I have done drugs or have had sex, or other things that are normally not brought up. I'd much rather them sit me down and ask then trying to spy on me. Maybe a year ago I'd lie and say I havn't done any drugs, but right now, I'd tell them that yes, I have smoked some weed, but that's it. I'm not stupid enough to try crystal meth or heroin. Let your kids to know what is right and wrong, and then leave them to make the decision. It's the one thing that parents need to understand that many don't get. A lot of parents try to control their childrens lives and it will usually end worse then if they trust their children to make a good decision, or learn from a bad one.