Dammit!!

I am so fucking pissed off right now, I can't see straight. At 4:30 this morning, I woke up to my mother washing dishes and putting stuff away. Regardless of gently you do this, it always sounds like someone is waging war with the pots and pans. Pile wakes up and isn't too happy with it either. I fall back asleep and wake up to a soft knock at my bedroom door. I try to ignore it, but can't. My mother is fully dressed and wants, no--she EXPECTS me to drive her to the casino. I tell her no and go back to bed. She threw a full blown hissy fit after Pile went to work. She was screaming and throwing shit. She woke up the 2 younger kids, they should STILL be asleep til 9. I want to choke her out right now. :ftw: , am I wrong here??? Things haven't been great around here. We have more drama than we can handle and she is gonna pull this shit on me? I know that I should have patience and just look the other way, but its been like this for YEARS. I can't get rid of her ass, she fucking lives with me!

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thanks for listening, I needed to get that out of my system before I did something stupid.

she is out of order thinking that ur her taxi. btw, casino at that time?

One word, rohypnol.....

she is out of order thinking that ur her taxi. btw, casino at that time?

That's the thing. I am the family taxi & secretary. The casino has caused me and Pile a whole lot of heartache. The Indian Casinos are open 24/7 and are plentiful. Once she pulled over 36 hours at one. There is one 15 minutes away from us. When my mom wants something, she expects one of us (mainly me) to make it happen. Its stupid, but I do what she wants to shut her up and not have to deal with the aftermath of this crap.

pile lives with his mother inlaw in the same house?
poor fooker is truly owned!

4:30 AM~doing the dishes?? You are a hell of a lot nicer than me or hubby--DAMN--does she not sleep??
And then screaming @ you for not taking her to the casino--waking the kids up in the process--and SHE LIVES WITH YOU~!!! Does she have NO RESPECT at all for her grand children or her DAUGHTER?? What would have happened to you if you would have done this when you lived with her--would she have put up with it & just drove you where ever you wanted to go?~if I was to act like that to my mom she would slap the taste out of my mouth!!
And WTF is up with you having to be a taxi & secretary to everyone??? I know that I dont know you or your mom--but I think you need to have a serious dicussion about her respecting your home; your children sleeping and YOU!! Tell her to CALL A DAMN CAB if she wants to go gamble that bad!! either that or have Geronimo come & pick her up when she gets a whim to gamble @ what 5:30 or 6 in the morning!!
Damn girl I thought I had it hard with 5 kids & physco ex-wife!!
Thinking about you today; and if you can maybe call a doc & see if you can get her on some MEDS--if not see if you can get yourself something-LOL-hell I would be on something much stronger than xanax if my mom lived with us!
you always tell me to keep my head up--so KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS! And dont forget that discussion about RESPECT!!!!!

Thanks Shelly! I love my mom. That is the bottom line. She has done so much for me over the years. If not for her, I for sure would have been dead a long time ago. I had many issues growing up. As a dutiful filipino daughter, I am just to do and not say a word. That is how our culture is. I am not supposed to argue with my mom. Just take her word and run with it. I am trying to keep my cool here because she isn't being rational. She hasn't been since my dad died 11 years ago. She has gotten worse over the years. I was told that when you are insulin dependant, it tends to mess with your rational side. That is an understatement when it comes to my mother...

Get her a cassino game for the playstation2. That may help. Maybe.

And Shelly you have an ex wife? thats hot. But I didn't think that type of thing was legal in NC

Get her a cassino game for the playstation2. That may help. Maybe.

nope...we got them for the PC. If anything it feeds the addiction.

That's the thing. I am the family taxi & secretary. The casino has caused me and Pile a whole lot of heartache. The Indian Casinos are open 24/7 and are plentiful. Once she pulled over 36 hours at one. There is one 15 minutes away from us. When my mom wants something, she expects one of us (mainly me) to make it happen. Its stupid, but I do what she wants to shut her up and not have to deal with the aftermath of this crap.

Tell her to spend her casino winnings on a damn taxi. If she doesn't have any she can find a rich old guy to sugar daddy or tough it out on the couch. Of course then you still get to hear her bitch. :sulkoff:

My mother-in-law dosen't get up till after 10:00 am and goes to bed before 10 pm. But I turned my Play Room into a apartment and added a bedroom and kitchen for her. I can lock her out. lol
U have my sympathy.

GOT IT!!

Feed the kids choclate and full fat coke all day then at bed time tell them you'll take em to Disneyland if they can complete 3 back somersaults on her bed whilst she is in it. Do that twice a week at random intervals and I promise the problem will go away

Normally I would say it sounds like she needs to get her own place so you can be mother and daughter not roommates and choffer. But I know better :(

But dragging the kids out of bed early should be a definite no "dont you dare" rule!

Look on the bright side it should make Pile want to work harder :D

Move. Bite the bullet and move --- take mom with you if need be.

Get away from the casino's if at all possible. Going to a casino at 6AM is a sign of serious problems.

Look at the 'big picture'

Would you put up with Pile going to the casino every Sat & Sun? Would you think he had a problem if he went 3 times a week, every week?

Now, what would you do if he was slipping off at 6AM to go gamble? It makes it harder to look at the whole scene when it's a parent. I know we would say things about the neighbors if we saw them sneaking off to the casino's that much.

Mom needs help.

Make a sammich?

Make a sammich?

no sammich for you

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Make a sammich?
Kill the mother in law?

So Sorry Mrs. couldn't resist.

Kill the mother in law?

So Sorry Mrs. couldn't resist.

Somedays even Shirley would agree with you.

yep, percodan pancake time...

Wow. 36hrs. That's serious. I thought my mother was bad. Had a good talk to my mother and told her she couldn't keep this up. So she banned herself for 2 years. They have a self banning system at our major casino where once you register and have your photo taken they will ban you for the specified period of time and you can't recind it!
Now she goes just for just a social night out. She actually won $10 G's last week playing on the 5cent slots and I got $1 G as she borrowed my car to go to the Casino.

I empathise with you as I had an uncle with the same med condition as your mother. He was a nice guy but on occasions he got quite irritable due to his med condition.

They have a self banning system at our major casino where once you register and have your photo taken they will ban you for the specified period of time and you can't recind it!

I think that my mom would DIE from withdrawls if she couldn't go! She is there now, my brother drove her. I told her that I wasn't doing no morning trips any longer. I stood strong on that day and didn't cave in like I normally do to get away from hearing her fit. She eventually went that day (my brother too her) and lost her money. She tried to give me the silent treatment but I was silent too. I thank you all here for your thoughts and kind words. They helped me get through a difficult day. :thanks:

Lay down the law. EOS.